Funeral Arrangements

Funeral Arrangements

Funeral Arrangements & Cream Tea Gathering

I feel numb but relieved,
Tired but in shock&heart felt sadness for the past memories&a bygone age!
Today when mum passed the charge nurse noted the time&called the Dr to sign the Death certificate – We had left instructions of who the funeral undertaker should be&Whether Mom requested to be Cremated or Buried.(This is usually stipulated in the Will also) – & needs to be rectified for signing of Death certificate by the Doctor.
We said goodbye to Mother&waited outside her room, whilst mummy was made to look peaceful .
Then we went into her room to say goodbye again.
Tomorrow we will clear what’s left in room-visit Undertaker (who mum has already been taken to)-&visit Church to arrange day of funeral (my father is buried in a double plot waiting for mom) &visit the hotel where we have the Reception gathering after the funeral.
Everything needs to tie in-
Who knows when the hour of the thief may Cometh!
Monday 4th August 2pm followed by the reception
Summer Cream Tea&Bucks Fizz at Country Inn Conservatory.It was a haze of a day !
I wanted to cry&felt all the time on the edge of bursting into tears&would well up&then feel as if there were no more tears left!
We arrived at the pretty country church in leafy Surrey England-(where dad is buried in a double plot)
Beforehand we paid a short visit to the Reception Inn-Quite a few people invited had also  arrived so we went in convoy to the Church.
I checked that the Memory Board had all Grandchildren, Aunts, family & friends on it!
When we arrived at the church we said hello to everyone&waited for Wicker Country Coffin to arrive.
It was draped with country flowers,including Sweet Peas which mum had loved to grow & smell the sweet scent of when she sat in the garden in the evening.
The Hearse arrived with the Wicker Coffin.It looked so pretty for such a sad occasion.
One of mothers  friends arrived (94yrs) & she was in tears so we walked into the church with her & then walked behind the Coffin down the aisle in respect for mum.
It was a lovely service-We also had an opera singer friend with a Beautiful Tenor Voice.He sang 2 solos-The lord is my shepherd & Holy City -So beautiful to hear – The Eulogy was lovely – short 5 minutes & a general life recap of mum and read by my Elder Brother.
People said the service was uplifting&mom would have loved it!
Then we had the burial&went onto the Reception gathering.

If Tears could build a Stairway.

If tears could build a stairway,
and memories were a lane,
I would walk right up to heaven
to bring you home again.
No farewell words were spoken
no time to say goodbye
you were gone before I knew it,
and only God knows why.
My heart still aches in sadness
and secret tears still flow,
what it meant to lose you,
no one will ever know.


A Wake
The wake was when the deceased person was ready for viewing&would be dressed beautifully to depart this life over into the next life.
Often the person would be in a Coffin on a table in the house.
Death was very much a part of life in the past with families having 13 children but only a few surviving.
In Ireland- In the past The Undertaker was often situated next to the local Pub so people could view the person at rest also.