Funeral Arrangements & Cream Tea Gathering
I feel numb but relieved,
Tired but in shock&heart felt sadness for the past memories&a bygone age!
Today when mum passed the charge nurse noted the time&called the Dr to sign the Death certificate – We had left instructions of who the funeral undertaker should be&Whether Mom requested to be Cremated or Buried.(This is usually stipulated in the Will also) – & needs to be rectified for signing of Death certificate by the Doctor.
We said goodbye to Mother&waited outside her room, whilst mummy was made to look peaceful .
Then we went into her room to say goodbye again.
Tomorrow we will clear what’s left in room-visit Undertaker (who mum has already been taken to)-&visit Church to arrange day of funeral (my father is buried in a double plot waiting for mom) &visit the hotel where we have the Reception gathering after the funeral.
Everything needs to tie in-
Who knows when the hour of the thief may Cometh!
Monday 4th August 2pm followed by the reception
I wanted to cry&felt all the time on the edge of bursting into tears&would well up&then feel as if there were no more tears left!
We arrived at the pretty country church in leafy Surrey England-(where dad is buried in a double plot)
Beforehand we paid a short visit to the Reception Inn-Quite a few people invited had also arrived so we went in convoy to the Church.
I checked that the Memory Board had all Grandchildren, Aunts, family & friends on it!
When we arrived at the church we said hello to everyone&waited for Wicker Country Coffin to arrive.
It was draped with country flowers,including Sweet Peas which mum had loved to grow & smell the sweet scent of when she sat in the garden in the evening.
The Hearse arrived with the Wicker Coffin.It looked so pretty for such a sad occasion.
One of mothers friends arrived (94yrs) & she was in tears so we walked into the church with her & then walked behind the Coffin down the aisle in respect for mum.
It was a lovely service-We also had an opera singer friend with a Beautiful Tenor Voice.He sang 2 solos-The lord is my shepherd & Holy City -So beautiful to hear – The Eulogy was lovely – short 5 minutes & a general life recap of mum and read by my Elder Brother.
People said the service was uplifting&mom would have loved it!
Then we had the burial&went onto the Reception gathering.
If Tears could build a Stairway.
If tears could build a stairway,
and memories were a lane,
I would walk right up to heaven
to bring you home again.
No farewell words were spoken
no time to say goodbye
you were gone before I knew it,
and only God knows why.
My heart still aches in sadness
and secret tears still flow,
what it meant to lose you,
no one will ever know.
The wake was when the deceased person was ready for viewing&would be dressed beautifully to depart this life over into the next life.
Often the person would be in a Coffin on a table in the house.
Death was very much a part of life in the past with families having 13 children but only a few surviving.
In Ireland- In the past The Undertaker was often situated next to the local Pub so people could view the person at rest also.